Why My Child Doesn’t Hate Me For Placing Her For Adoption

The morning I held my daughter for the last time in the hospital I sat there staring, tears streaming down, into my lap to see my 3 day-old baby girl sweetly sleeping, swaddled in a hospital blanket completely unaware of what would take place in just minutes. Today...

The Baby Scoop Era Still Echos in Unethical Adoption Practices

The era known forever in American adoption history as The Baby Scoop Era reminds us of a time when Birthmothers were neither cared for nor acknowledged in what was always a closed adoption. Normal adoption practices then included the new mother never meeting her child...

Being Intentional About Making An Adoption Plan

The idea of making an adoption plan when you are dealing with an unintended pregnancy is more common than one would think. The question of adoption will usually pass through one’s mind, even if it isn’t even verbalized. Fear of the unknown surrounding adoption usually...

Dealing With The Issue of Color In Adoption Conversations

The prominence of transracial adoption has grown exponentially in the last 10-15 years. There are many opinions on this subject, as you can well imagine. But the issue of color in adoption conversations is one that needs careful consideration when it comes to talking...

Why Making An Adoption Plan Is Not Giving Your Baby Away

If there is any one line I have heard more than 1,000 times in the 10 years I’ve worked with women facing an unplanned pregnancy, it’s “I could never give my baby away.” This response to an adoption conversation seems to be the nuclear response that ends the...